Students Perspective
Introduction
- There
are four types of students in a school that experiencing bullying:
o
the
bystander
o
the
victim
o
the
bully
o
the
bully-victim
- The
way that students are bullied is as varied as student responses to bullying. Students who are bullied report being victims
of physical, verbal, social isolation, rumor spreading and cyber-attacks.
- Research
has shown that when students are exposed to these types of behaviors that there
is a great impact on both their academic and emotional well being.
- Students
may suffer from anxiety, depression, negative self image and compromised
academic performance.
- These
impacts are real and they are present in nearly every school and every grade in
America.
Effects on Students
- The
effects of bullying on students cannot be ignored. Studies have found that, students who are not
engaged in bullying report better Quality of Life, Life Satisfaction and feel
more supported by their teachers and peers than students who bully and/or are
bullied.
- This
reinforces other findings that note that children who were not involved in
bullying reported less depression and more social support than children who are
involved in bullying.
- Interestingly
students who are participating in the actions of bullying are themselves
negatively impacted, just at those who they are perpetrating these acts
against. Also, the group that is the most “at risk” for depression, and the one
that needs the most parent, teacher and social support is the bully victim.
- As
teachers, we owe it to our students to provide a safe space, free from
bullying, so that they are less susceptible to depression, and more capable to
achieving academically in the classroom.
For the Victim
- Students
report feeling lonely, anxious, depressed, low self-esteem, body image issues
and more.
- Can
lead to: truancy, intense dislike of going to school, and increased risk of
student drop out
- Attempted
suicide, school shootings
For the Bully
- At
risk for future social and emotional problems
- Increased
risk for later criminality and incarceration.
What Do
Students Need?
- Students who are bullied and who are bullying clearly need allies, and those who are willing to listen and work with them to help solve their problems.
- Some
studies suggest that both anti-bullying programs and school wide interventions
are needed in order to help prevent the negative consequences of bullying in
schools.
- Other
authors also note that, efforts to engage bystanders in bullying prevention
should be distinguished from peer mediation and conflict resolution strategies. It is not the responsibility of the bystander
to “fix” the bullying situation, but it is
their responsibility to not ignore
the situation.
- Students
also need teacher, administrator, and parent support. Teachers need to be advocates for the victim
and educators for the bystanders, bullies and bully-victims.
- Administrators
are ultimately responsible for creating a safe climate in schools for students,
and one that works to prevent and address all types of bullying
- Administrators
must work hard to, “create a school climate where students feel encouraged and
comfortable reporting any and all forms of cyber bullying to a responsible
adult”.
- Students
need a strong, consistent support system for when they are victims of bullying.
- Open
and honest discussions between teachers, parents and students of those involved
in bullying.
- Schools
can establish a way of confidentially reporting bullying situations in order to
protect bystanders and reporters anonymity.
This may encourage more reporting of bullying.
- Students
need education in the differences between teasing (which is often a sign of
friendship or intimacy) and bullying.
References
Conners-Burrow, N. A., Johnson, D.
L., Whiteside-Mansell, L., McKelvey, L., Gargus, R. A. (2009). Adults matter:
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Parents
Perspective
Problems
- Many
parents are not aware that their child is being victimized or victimizing
others.
- As
a result, parents then get upset with the school for not preventing it
from happening.
- Some
parents don’t have the tools, or they have been provided with
misinformation.
- Some
parents believe it’s the school’s job, not theirs, to keep their child
safe at school.
- “’Parents
and schools recognize that bullying is a problem that will not go away of
its own choice—it’s not a faddish things,’ says Ted Feinberg, assistant
executive director of the National Association of School Psychologists
(NASP). ‘This is something that has been long overdue in terms of it
being addressed by responsible agencies’” (Greenya, 2005, p. 104).
- Some
parents may not recognize their child as the bully.
- It
is very difficult for most parents to determine whether their children
engage in bullying behaviors because most bullying occurs out of parents'
sight.
- Some
parents do not recognize that their actions (bullying others) directly
effects and rubs off on their kids. Hence, the bullying cycle
continues.
- Some
adults rationalize bullying because victims are overly sensitive, cry
easily, or act in ways that set them apart from other children. Even
if the victim does show these characteristics, adults must know bullying
is not a healthy coping response—it signals that a child needs to learn
how to manage his or her emotions, release anger and frustration in more
healthy ways, and learn more constructive strategies for getting along
with others.
- Research
shows that parents are concerned first and foremost with the safety of
their child and a sense of belonging to the school. Additionally,
many parents report that they believe their child witnesses bullying but
is not necessarily being bullied or is the bully (Waasdorp, Pas,
O’Brennan, & Bradshaw, 2011).
Questions
- So
what is a parent to do?
- What
is right?
- Do
I teach your child to defend herself/himself?
- Do
I teach her/him to allow bullies to pick on her/him?
- As
a parent I would want to know what really started the altercation in the
first place? Did my child say something inappropriate or was he
totally innocent of any wrongdoing whatsoever? It takes two
people to fight. Was there an adult witness to the fight?
Solutions
- As
a parent, your role is to help children establish more mature and healthy
ways of relating with others, thereby ensuring that they will grow into
caring and adaptive adults.
- Look
for signs of bullying
- Not wanting to go to school
- Scrapes and bruises
- Racing home to go to the
bathroom
- Ask
questions. Start a discussion with your child.
- Don't push too hard
- Use a gentle, curious tone of
voice
- If your child won’t open up to
you, find another trusted adult.
- If they will talk with you,
parents should not tell their children what to do as a bystander.
Instead, they should listen to their children and ask them
what they would do in certain situations.
- Be
a good role model of cooperation and collaboration.
- Encourage
your child to tell adults if she/he sees bullying.
- Set
a good example in your use of language.
- Having
consistent rules in the home.
- Having
a good relationship with your child.
- Step
in and help. As a parent, have a conversation about this issue with
the school principal, counselor, social worker, or other
administrators. (If your child is a victim of bullying, it is
imperative that school officials be notified immediately. In some
instances bullying is a cry for help. By notifying school officials,
you may be affording him the counseling and help needed to change
inappropriate behavior.)
- Don’t
contact the bully or the bully’s family. Emotions could get out of
hand and make the problem worse.
- Seek
professional counseling for child, if necessary.
- Know
what your school handbook or school website and state laws says about
bullying and intimidation. Know your rights and your child’s rights.
- Early
education and intervention is key!
- Prepare
your child
- Practice ways to deal with
future bullying
- Build your child’s confidence
- Bottom
line = Be aware, understand what is going on, and get involved (be a part
of the solution)!
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Teachers
Perspective
"Teachers
must recognise that a safe classroom is the most effective way of developing a
positive learning environment."
~ Mark Cleary
Problems
- No
anti-bullying curriculum exists for teachers to work with.
- Teacher
expectations differ from school’s approach (e.g., disciplinary actions)
- Teachers
can make the situation worse, if they do not handle it appropriately.
- Teachers
are not aware (not see) the bullying occur, or they choose to ignore the
behavior altogether.
- Teachers
can talk with the parents of the bullying victim.
- Teachers
should encourage parental involvement.
Questions
- Are
there gender differences in the experience of bullying?
- Are
there ethnic differences in the experience of bullying?
- Is
it true that “Once a victim, always a victim”?
- Are
some students both bullies and victims?
- What
is the main reason that students get picked on by their peers?
- With
so many bully-reduction interventions on the market, how can teachers know
which one to choose?
Solutions
- Provide
social support
- Treat
all children fairly
- Increase
awareness, understanding, and knowledge about bullying
- Integration
of bullying-related content into the curriculum (grade/age appropriate –
e.g., friendship skills, relational aggression)
- Increase
supervision and monitor students in order to observe and intervene in
bullying situations occur
- Stay
plugged in and involve your students—teach kids not to be victims
- Encourage
students to seek help when victimized or they witness victimization—offer
to be that line of support for them
- Create
a plan on how to deal with instances of bullying
- Establish
classroom rules regarding bullying and appropriate social behavior
- Provide
consistent discipline for violators
- Promote
personal and social competencies (e.g., assertiveness, anger management,
self-confidence, emotional management skills)
- Create
a classroom community agreement of respect in which every student is
valued
- Collaborate
with parents, other educators, administration, district, students, and the
overall community to reinforce messages and skills across settings
Five Tips to Help Teachers Prevent Bullying
Even when a school leader doesn’t have a formal bullying
prevention agenda, teachers can create safe, bully-free zones in their
classrooms:
- Know
your school and district policies on bullying.
- Do
your part to implement them effectively.
- Treat
students and others with warmth and respect.
- Let
students know that you are available to listen and help them.
- Conduct
classroom activities around bullying.
- Help
your class identify bullying in books, TV shows, and movies—discuss the
impact that bullying can have and how it can be resolved.
- Hold
class meetings where students can talk about bullying and peer relations.
- Discuss
bullying with colleagues.
- As
a group, you will be better able to monitor the school environment.
- Discuss
both bullying in general and specific concerns regarding specific
students.
- Take
immediate action.
- Failure
to act provides unspoken approval of the behavior and can cause it to
spread.
Bullying Myths
Among the most common myths that even some teachers have
been known to endorse are the following:
- Myth
#1: Bullies are rejected by their peers and have no friends
- Myth
#2: Bullies have low self-esteem
- Myth
#3: Being a victim builds character
- Myth
#4: Many childhood victims of harassment become violent as teens
- Myth
#5: Bullying involves only perpetrators and victims
Do’s and Don’ts
Do:
1.
Respond
to any bullying incident that you witness.
2.
Use
witnessed bullying incidents as teachable moments.
3.
Seek
outside help when needed.
4.
Set
an example with your own behavior.
Don't:
- Never
ignore a student who reports being victimized by peers.
- Do
not rely too heavily on a zero-tolerance approach to disciplining bullies.
- Do
not adopt a one-size fits all model for intervening in school bullying.
- Do
not let the peer group off the hook.
Teachers Need to Look For . . .
Three
common features:
- Deliberate,
hurtful behavior
- Repeated
- Difficult
for those being bullied to defend themselves
Three main types of bullying:
- Physical
- hitting, kicking, taking belongings
- Verbal
- name-calling, insulting, racist remarks
- Indirect/Emotional
- spreading nasty stories, excluding from groups
Bullies . . .
- Are
often attention seekers.
- Will
establish their power base by testing the response of the less powerful
members of the group, watching how they react when small things happen.
- Find
out how the teacher reacts to minor transgressions of the rules and wait
to see if the ‘victim’ will complain. It is important that teachers are
vigilant and consistent.
- Bully
because they believe they are popular and have the support of the others.
- Keep
bullying because they incorrectly think the behavior is exciting and makes
them popular.
- If
there are no consequences to the bad behavior; if the victim does not
complain and if the peer group silently or even actively colludes, the
bully will continue with the behavior.
Victims . . .
- Often
have poor social skills.
- Lack
the confidence to seek help.
- Don’t
have the support of the teacher or classmates who find them unappealing.
- Blame
themselves and believe it is their own fault.
- Are
desperate to ‘fit in’.
- View
is very often reinforced by the attitude of adults in their lives.
- It
is highly unlikely that they will seek help.
Teacher Action
All staff must to be committed to a
common response to bullying when it does happen.
- Immediate
intervention is crucial.
- Clear
procedures must take place when a case of bullying is discovered.
The school needs to provide necessary support for the
individual teacher so that they are able to maintain a safe classroom
environment. The discipline policy and structures are mechanisms to support and
maintain safe supportive classrooms.
There must be clear guidelines that stipulate the responsibilities
teaching staff have when dealing with a case of bullying. Everyone needs to
accept that his or her classroom must be a safe, supportive environment where
bad behavior is not tolerated and bullying is recognized, publicly condemned
and dealt with.
- Many
teachers and schools find it helpful to develop clear statements of what
is appropriate behavior in the classroom.
- This may be in the form of a
school-wide Code of Conduct or in an individual classroom or school
statement.
- Because
victims can be passive and withdrawn, others need to tell when they see
bullying.
- Good
teachers encourage the ‘telling of tales’.
- They
develop mechanisms to ensure that their pupils can report bad behavior
without fear of retribution or being chastised for telling tales.
A good teacher will:
- Notice
when a pupil is isolated and sad.
- Look
for the reasons for this.
- Not
see it as just play-fighting, name-calling, a bit of fun or just part of
growing up.
- Work
with the victim to stop the offending behavior.
- Not
tell the victim to ignore it, to sort it out themselves or to hit back.
Curriculum
Action
All pupils in the school will need
to have their awareness raised in a variety of ways. This can be:
- Formalized
within the curriculum, i.e. taught as part of health / social studies etc.
- Part
of special year group training sessions, or as
- Part
of a special prosocial skill development program.
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Administrators
Perspective
- Bullying is not something that
administrators can ignore; it is just as much their problem as it is
teachers and parents.
- The principal must help to send
the message to every adult in the building that bullying is not to be
tolerated, and that anti-bullying practices must be addressed, modeled and
reinforced in every classroom and in every part of the school building,
including the less structured lunchroom and recess areas.
- Principal must be a strong
leader in preventing bullying in schools. They must provide thorough
parent education on the definitions and school responses to bullying, as
well as provide financial support for implementing anti-bullying programs
and for professional development and follow-up for teachers.
- It is important for
administrators to create an environment that is open and honest between
teachers, parents and other administrative staff. This includes
working to create a safe space where all stake holders feel like their
concerns are respected and heard.
- Administrators must be the ones
driving parent education about bullying, and work together with teachers
to create or choose an anti-bullying policy for their school.
- Early intervention is key –
ignoring the problems will not make them go away, and may instead make the
problems for the victim and the bully even words.
- Administrators must encourage
and allow time for teachers to attend professional development relating to
anti-bullying practices and recognition and intervention in bullying
situations.
- School wide anti-bullying plans
and procedures are more effective than ad hoc attempts which are not
consistent between teachers, grade levels or administrators.
- Admin should start implementing
anti-bullying policies by administrating a “needs assessment” to identify
the knowledge about bullying present within teachers and support
staff. This can help tailor professional development for these
stakeholders.
- Successful anti-bullying
programs work to change the underlying culture of the school as a whole
rather than address individual bullying situations as they come up in a
more reactive manner.
- It is important that once an
anti-bullying program is chosen by a school, that it be consistently
implemented in its entirety.
- They are responsible for making
sure that all areas of the school are well supervised by staff who are
able to recognize, report and intervene in bullying situations.
- Admin needs to create a culture
of respect for diversity alongside of anti-bullying practices.
- Diversity education can be a
key component to stopping bullying.
- Encourage teacher professional
development in increasing multicultural education in all classrooms to
allow for a more broad understanding of students’ diverse backgrounds at
ALL GRADE LEVELS.
- Administrators must be
supportive of purchasing literature for all ages that deal with bullying
and diversity recognition issues such as race, social class, family types
and LGBTQ issues.
- Principals are responsible for
the continuation of anti-bullying programs. This includes making
sure those new teachers and new parents are aware of anti-bullying and
pro-tolerance policies that the school or district has implemented.
They are also responsible for providing the financial resources to replace
such materials if they become lost or damaged.
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